Thursday, June 7, 2012
Parenting is Heart Work: Correction Ideas that Touch the Heart
Here we are at session #3- Correction Ideas that Touch the Heart. I am so excited to share just a few things from Parenting Is Heart Work by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller and our home group session.
Many times parents use anger to accomplish the task of correction, but in this lesson Scott and Joanne want to show you a few different ways to do this. First of all, correction is an opportunity for heart change.
A good correction routine starts with words (1 Timothy 3:16). Teach your child to be responsive to words of correction. Also, teach your children to take a break.
Taking a break is sending your child on a mission to change their heart. The child determines the length of their break and the motivation to return is that the child is missing out on the benefits of family life.
We have recently started using the break with our 3 year old. We tell him that after he settles down he can come back when he is ready to LISTEN and OBEY! We cannot engage him in any heart change discussion when he is angry. We are learning to correct through love and not anger. I think that is the biggest benefit.
There are also steps of repentance that is discussed in more detail in the book:
1. Settle down
2. Admit doing wrong
3. Acknowledge a better way
4. Commit to do what's right
5. Feel sorrow
6. Desire what's right
Have you used any of these techniques? Is taking a break different than time-out and how so?
Taken from Parenting Is Heart Work.
Next time: A Toolbox of Consequences